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Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can?
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
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That's a good point.MrPlum wrote:Put anyone in a situation where their native language is not spoken at all and I'll bet they will all be fluent within 18 months. The need dictates the amount of effort.
I've only been to Thailand as a tourist to touristy areas and have always been able get by speaking english. Maybe the people that move to less visited (by foreigners) areas have more incentive to learn Thai and would progress quicker.
On a different note, I went to Cambodia in March and found that a lot of the expats could speak Khmer, even though english is widely spoken. I was told Kmer is not tonal so its much easier to learn than Thai. One waitress in a restaurant, who spoke excelent english, was charging 50c a word to a guy that had just moved there
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
I think that you’re making too many assumptions, CJ (whoever you are). I admire people who can speak Thai better than I can, and feel a tad embarrassed that my Thai isn’t as good as it should be, but I would never shun them. Unless, they had other traits that made them shunnable (I just made up that word, but I quite like it ).
I have friends who speak a small amount of Thai, and some that are extremely good. Strangely enough, the ones that are extremely good (at Thai) seem to get into more bother with Thais than those at a more basic level. They, maybe, get into deeper conversations that could possibly be misunderstood. The nuances of any language can end up with misunderstandings, especially with the hierarchal Thai language.
It’s very easy to say that everyone should speak Thai, but it takes time, patience, and/or money. Not all of us have the above (I wish), but manage to live in relative harmony with our Thai friends.
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I have friends who speak a small amount of Thai, and some that are extremely good. Strangely enough, the ones that are extremely good (at Thai) seem to get into more bother with Thais than those at a more basic level. They, maybe, get into deeper conversations that could possibly be misunderstood. The nuances of any language can end up with misunderstandings, especially with the hierarchal Thai language.
It’s very easy to say that everyone should speak Thai, but it takes time, patience, and/or money. Not all of us have the above (I wish), but manage to live in relative harmony with our Thai friends.
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
My only view when I hear a fluent Thai Farang is inquisitive, my Thai is passable, been told my pronunciation is perfect, if not my vocabulary.
Never resented, just wonder how long they've been around, background etc.
Never resented, just wonder how long they've been around, background etc.
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
Just need to brush up on your English now thenBaaBaa. wrote: . . . . . my Thai is passable, been told my pronunciation is perfect, if not my vocabulary.
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
redzonerocker wrote:Just need to brush up on your English now thenBaaBaa. wrote: . . . . . my Thai is passable, been told my pronunciation is perfect, if not my vocabulary.
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Always assumed you were scouse?BaaBaa. wrote:I'm impeccabable.
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
I for one couldn't care less whether a person can speak Thai or not, so naturally I don't resent expats who can speak it. I know a few words, but that's it. I have never made an attempt to learn, simply because I have never wanted to learn. As with Mr Plum, I enjoy the silence. Also, I cannot keep my mouth shut when/if it should be opened, so if I could speak Thai, I could well find myself getting into very dangerous situations.
As much as people like to think otherwise, Thais DO often say some pretty nasty things about us, unless of course they realize you can understand the language. My wife for example was referred to as a prostitute by a female taxi driver on Samui, while I was a dog. My wife was naturally very upset, but refused to tell me why until we had left the island. Now, had I understood the taxi driver, she would have got a damn side more than a smile, and that in turn could get me into serious trouble.
Just a short while ago at the floating market in Hua-Hin, some nasty comments were made by a stuck up Bangkok rich kid bitch. Unfortunately for her, I did understand some of what she said, and of course she got it straight back from me in no uncertain terms, with plenty of English insults added in for good measure. So, it's things like this that make me not want to learn the language.
Having said all that, I am now, after more than 12 years, eventually thinking that maybe I should learn the language, but not 100% sure yet.
For now, I'll just continue speaking the world's finest language ........
As much as people like to think otherwise, Thais DO often say some pretty nasty things about us, unless of course they realize you can understand the language. My wife for example was referred to as a prostitute by a female taxi driver on Samui, while I was a dog. My wife was naturally very upset, but refused to tell me why until we had left the island. Now, had I understood the taxi driver, she would have got a damn side more than a smile, and that in turn could get me into serious trouble.
Just a short while ago at the floating market in Hua-Hin, some nasty comments were made by a stuck up Bangkok rich kid bitch. Unfortunately for her, I did understand some of what she said, and of course she got it straight back from me in no uncertain terms, with plenty of English insults added in for good measure. So, it's things like this that make me not want to learn the language.
Having said all that, I am now, after more than 12 years, eventually thinking that maybe I should learn the language, but not 100% sure yet.
For now, I'll just continue speaking the world's finest language ........
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
The fact that you will be able to understand insults seems not a very good reason not to learn a language.
"I cannot be bothered" is!
"I cannot be bothered" is!
Why would you speak German???Takiap wrote:For now, I'll just continue speaking the world's finest language ........
We are all living in 'the good old days' of the future.
Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
Why would you speak German???
Hmmmm...Fawlty Towers springs to mind
Hmmmm...Fawlty Towers springs to mind
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“The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those who speak it.” -George Orwell.
Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
I think VS hit the nail on the head.
I know farangs who speak perfect Thai and Laos but only use it when necessary.
I know farangs who show off by loudly talking in Thai or Laos in bars and restaurants. Not only is this unnecessary and despised by quieter farangs but I have noticed it upsets the Thai staff too.
I noticed it most when living in Khon Kaen. Some guys who live up there who are remnants of the MIA VN forces insist on talking loudly in Khmer or Laos despite the fact all and sundry present speak English.
Some of these guys had never been out of Isaan so their views on the rest of Thailand and the rest of the world were distorted
I know farangs who speak perfect Thai and Laos but only use it when necessary.
I know farangs who show off by loudly talking in Thai or Laos in bars and restaurants. Not only is this unnecessary and despised by quieter farangs but I have noticed it upsets the Thai staff too.
I noticed it most when living in Khon Kaen. Some guys who live up there who are remnants of the MIA VN forces insist on talking loudly in Khmer or Laos despite the fact all and sundry present speak English.
Some of these guys had never been out of Isaan so their views on the rest of Thailand and the rest of the world were distorted
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It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
I for one will be disapointed to see Cing Jai leave but advise him to grow a thicker skin if he stays and learn his views are not going to be accepted by those that disagree
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could that be when the percieved resentment was felt if so a bit more thought would probably have had one speaking english
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Speaking to a farangs wife in Thai when all three speak english and the farang does not speak Thai could cause resentment i would suggestAnother might be if it's being done to exclude someone from the conversation or even talk about them furtively.
Obviously in these cases it's not so much resentment about speaking Thai but just a lack of manners.
could that be when the percieved resentment was felt if so a bit more thought would probably have had one speaking english
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This, for me, is a BIG no no.Speaking to a farangs wife in Thai when all three speak english and the farang does not speak Thai
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
Isn't that kind of what CJ is referring to though?
If you speak to someone's other half in Thai - because you can and she / he intitiated conversation in Thai - then if the 3rd person has no ability to understand you are almost obliged to switch to the common language at the earliest opportunity. It frequently exposes an insecurity - "what are they talking about 'secretly'". Or something like that.
That insecurity need not only be about Thai (or any other language) specifically. It could equally be maths, high energy physics, or any subject where some familiarity with advanced subject matter tends to cut others from the discussion. With languages, it is just closer to the surface; more obvious; more pointed. I don't think it is particularly unusual to get some kind of resentment when a person's relative ignorance is unwittingly laid before them - and we all generally take care to change the subject when it becomes obvious that that is the case.
I say unwittingly, because to do it deliberately would be (I think most would agree) incredibly rude.
I am pretty sure this is true of any expat community - take the Costas, or Hong Kong as examples. Many of the responses to CJ read like indignation. He was asking, not accusing - however bluntly. Just maybe the indigant flak indicates his comment cut a little close to the bone.
If you speak to someone's other half in Thai - because you can and she / he intitiated conversation in Thai - then if the 3rd person has no ability to understand you are almost obliged to switch to the common language at the earliest opportunity. It frequently exposes an insecurity - "what are they talking about 'secretly'". Or something like that.
That insecurity need not only be about Thai (or any other language) specifically. It could equally be maths, high energy physics, or any subject where some familiarity with advanced subject matter tends to cut others from the discussion. With languages, it is just closer to the surface; more obvious; more pointed. I don't think it is particularly unusual to get some kind of resentment when a person's relative ignorance is unwittingly laid before them - and we all generally take care to change the subject when it becomes obvious that that is the case.
I say unwittingly, because to do it deliberately would be (I think most would agree) incredibly rude.
I am pretty sure this is true of any expat community - take the Costas, or Hong Kong as examples. Many of the responses to CJ read like indignation. He was asking, not accusing - however bluntly. Just maybe the indigant flak indicates his comment cut a little close to the bone.
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Re: Why do expats who can't speak Thai resent those that can
If I was sitting at a table with my wife (that'll be the day) and a friend for dinner and the friend struck up a conversation with the wife in Thai knowing full well she speaks English and I don't speak Thai - I would find that to be extremely rude to be honest.
Edit: Sorry I didn't read your above post properly... you had already said this.
Korkenzieher said...
Edit: Sorry I didn't read your above post properly... you had already said this.
Korkenzieher said...
I say unwittingly, because to do it deliberately would be (I think most would agree) incredibly rude.