Hi Guy’s
Excellent website with some great info for a Thailand beginner like me.
I just spent 8 days in Hau Hin a few weeks back and had a great time around town. It must be a great place to live, pretty laid back with all the good bits about Thailand and nothing really in your face like some other places!!!!.
One question I have without mentioning names;
I met a girl in one of the plush hotels, she was working in the hotel as waitress, incredibly beautiful and really friendly nice girl, I’m sure she is friendly with all customers as that’s part of her job I guess.
Anyway we ended up meet away from the hotel and she showed me various places in and around Hau Hin and we went for drinks, food etc, really had a great time with her and I’m going to meet up with her in a month or so, I am just curious is it normal for the hotel staff to be as friendly as this?? She was always going home to her own place every night and never once stayed at my hotel, also she was always trying to pay for some things, even when I insisted I would pay she would say no.
I would always make my own mind up about someone but I am just curious, any thoughts
Many thanks
John
Is this normal
John
I've seen some of these girls in the 5 star hotels, so elegant and beautiful, I.....you should count yourself lucky.....
I think any girl regardless of what she dose for a living if she likes you and your a decent guy she will naturally want to spend some time with you, to answer your question I don’t think it would be that normal for the girls working in the hotel to go out with the hotel customers, even more so in these 5 star joints. I'll guess you’re probably about the same age as her and she liked you so she thought it was worth a go.
Good luck
Mark
I've seen some of these girls in the 5 star hotels, so elegant and beautiful, I.....you should count yourself lucky.....
I think any girl regardless of what she dose for a living if she likes you and your a decent guy she will naturally want to spend some time with you, to answer your question I don’t think it would be that normal for the girls working in the hotel to go out with the hotel customers, even more so in these 5 star joints. I'll guess you’re probably about the same age as her and she liked you so she thought it was worth a go.
Good luck
Mark
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Hi John, although no expert on Thai/farang relationships, I have dated "several" (well quite a lot actually) Thai ladies, some of dubious employment i.e. from the Soi, and also 2 who had regular jobs.
"also she was always trying to pay for some things, even when I insisted I would pay she would say no"
I would say in my experience only, and I stress that only, I agree with TC as it has always ended in tears, and an empty wallet...mine, with the current exception.
My girlfriend works in BKK for a very large Thai company, has her own car and house and an excellent salary. She has paid for loads of things when we're together, a phenomenon I found hard to grasp at first, having been on the c@*p end of the stick so many times, and it was very refreshing.
But I have to say I'm still waiting for the day when the sick grandmother calls, or one of the pigs gets flu (unlikely as they're not farmers but you never know!!) Maybe it's cynicism, but I, like an awful lot of others have heard and can tell quite a few stories on this thread, so it pays to keep an eye on what's being said and asked for.
I adore Asian women and would never dream of dating a farang lady now, by and large they are very generous and caring people, so just take it slowly and get to know her, there are "good and bad" everywhere, so don't be put off by her show of going dutch....just be careful!!
Good luck!!
"also she was always trying to pay for some things, even when I insisted I would pay she would say no"
I would say in my experience only, and I stress that only, I agree with TC as it has always ended in tears, and an empty wallet...mine, with the current exception.
My girlfriend works in BKK for a very large Thai company, has her own car and house and an excellent salary. She has paid for loads of things when we're together, a phenomenon I found hard to grasp at first, having been on the c@*p end of the stick so many times, and it was very refreshing.
But I have to say I'm still waiting for the day when the sick grandmother calls, or one of the pigs gets flu (unlikely as they're not farmers but you never know!!) Maybe it's cynicism, but I, like an awful lot of others have heard and can tell quite a few stories on this thread, so it pays to keep an eye on what's being said and asked for.
I adore Asian women and would never dream of dating a farang lady now, by and large they are very generous and caring people, so just take it slowly and get to know her, there are "good and bad" everywhere, so don't be put off by her show of going dutch....just be careful!!
Good luck!!
Hello John
Not to dampen your spirits, but the better-looking ones with language skills and working at a fairly 'plush' hotel are probably looking out to better their own situation. Not everyone wants to fork out for a really plush hotel, so she may just be narrowing down the list of future prospects by working there.... it's less obvious than standing at the bar.
My brother is going through the same dilemma; the girls tend to give you very little information initially, then the kids start coming out of closets on subsequent visits. There have been three ladies so far, I wonder how many more?
I've been fairly lucky in that respect - my wife and I have been together for sixteen years, two kids, both of us have good jobs, and are accepted and loved by both sets of in-laws. The difference here is, we met through working in a similar field, and had many friends who knew both of us so we had an idea as to what we were getting into.
So, enjoy the experience for what it was, look her up if you want to the next time, but go in with your eyes open.
Also check out the www.stickmanbangkok.com website, he's an English teacher who runs a 'Dear Abby' type website.
Vincent
Not to dampen your spirits, but the better-looking ones with language skills and working at a fairly 'plush' hotel are probably looking out to better their own situation. Not everyone wants to fork out for a really plush hotel, so she may just be narrowing down the list of future prospects by working there.... it's less obvious than standing at the bar.
My brother is going through the same dilemma; the girls tend to give you very little information initially, then the kids start coming out of closets on subsequent visits. There have been three ladies so far, I wonder how many more?
I've been fairly lucky in that respect - my wife and I have been together for sixteen years, two kids, both of us have good jobs, and are accepted and loved by both sets of in-laws. The difference here is, we met through working in a similar field, and had many friends who knew both of us so we had an idea as to what we were getting into.
So, enjoy the experience for what it was, look her up if you want to the next time, but go in with your eyes open.
Also check out the www.stickmanbangkok.com website, he's an English teacher who runs a 'Dear Abby' type website.
Vincent