Married vs Single

[migrant]

I'm married for the second time, having said after my divorce that I would never get married again. It has taught me never to say 'never', again, and also that I learned more about myself in my first marriage than probably anything else. Some pretty tough lessons for the most part.

My wife now also happens to be my best friend and she's a saint to put up with some of my s**t. I know many second time around couples who are very happy and, apparently, you never leave your second wife.

Oops, there I go saying 'never' again!

Wow, same, same!

[TingTongJohn]

well married was nice but in the end it was not very nice and I like single its safe and if I need a friend I perfer to have a rental with no contract.

[margaretcarnes]

If people want to stay together and it's right for them they will - regardless of some bit of paper.

[yankee99]

No matter your status as long as your happy.

[oakdale160]

And remember, either way------- YOU ALWAYS PAY FOR SEX

[Vital Spark]

If a marriage is purely based on sex (i.e. having it) and looks, then it doesn't have longevity, as both change over a period of time. Mr.VS went back to the UK last Christmas to spend time with his mum. He was only away 10 days, but during that time I realised how important companionship is in a relationship. Just someone to watch a TV programme with, to chat with, to take the mickey out of, and generally have fun with. The prospect of living alone scares me, but perhaps it's because I'm a female and I feel I need my night in shining armour to protect me. Maybe it's different for men...?

VS

[Vital Spark]

Can I change 'night' to 'knight'? The thought of spending a night in shining armour doesn't sound very comfortable.

[caller]

Silly VS, I hadn't noticed that - we don't do we - now I did, it read's quite funny! Could be a bit hot though.

[Frank La Rue]

If a marriage is purely based on sex (i.e. having it) and looks, then it doesn't have longevity, as both change over a period of time. Mr.VS went back to the UK last Christmas to spend time with his mum. He was only away 10 days, but during that time I realised how important companionship is in a relationship. Just someone to watch a TV programme with, to chat with, to take the mickey out of, and generally have fun with. The prospect of living alone scares me, but perhaps it's because I'm a female and I feel I need my night in shining armour to protect me. Maybe it's different for men...?

VS

I don't think it is that different for men in this respect.

When I courted Thai women to find a wife (I had decided to find a Thai wife - and this was a project, not about incidentally falling in love - which I did eventually) there was talk about finding a "soulmate". I really like that expression - it captures the essence of living together, marriage or partnership.

Men are not monogameous by genetic predisposition, so sex has nothing to do with marriage. As I write this my wife sits next to me, looking at internet television - the goings on by the mob, Suthep and yingluck in BKK, we just had dinner and I love her presence next to me.

One thing Thai women have got right: I never once experienced "no" to sex in 10 years of marriage. Maybe that helps.

[hhfarang]

I never once experienced "no" to sex in 10 years of marriage.

I've experienced it... but it was ME saying it.