Married vs Single

[Stargeezer]

Which is better, Being single wishing you were married, or Married wishing you were single?
I have a friend in his 60s who never married, and he says being single and wishing is better
because you are used to your lifestyle choice, and maybe someday it can still change.
Being Married and wishing you were single is pretty sad. It is even sadder if you have been married 2 or 3 times and are still in that situation.
Anyway I thought I would throw out this question and see other opinions.
Stargeezer

[dtaai-maai]

Being Married and wishing you were single is pretty sad.

... and yet, so easy to resolve...

[Pleng]

Being single wishing you were married

Does this actually apply to any man, ever?

[GLCQuantum]

I can't see myself ever getting married. I'm just not 'husband' material. That old ball and chain won't be coming anywhere near me. Some people enjoy their free/private time too much to sacrifice it for a nagging lass depending on you to bring home the bacon.

Also, being in Thailand, whenever you are a little lonely, it's incredibly easy to hook up with someone (no, not bar girls chaps ) with no strings attached - Friends with benefits.

Marriage?.... meh!

[Roel]

You misspelled horny

[GLCQuantum]

whenever you are a little lonely, it's incredibly easy to hook up with someone

You misspelled horny

[buksida]

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

[JW]

You meet people occasionally who you can see are great together.. those people are happy..married or not.

[Stargeezer]

Buksida, you hit it on the head. Thanks for making my day
Stargeezer

[oakdale160]

I have been single over30 years. Best advice I had after the divorce.
Marriage is like the army, it doesn't matter how much fun you had the first time, never re- enlist.

[Frank La Rue]

You meet people occasionally who you can see are great together.. those people are happy..married or not.

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

I think the two quotes show the answer is in "it depends on".

After divorce I ran a project called "Travels With Frank" . ended up as a 2 separate stories on some other forums. I remarried and don't regret. The 2nd time I find I got i right

[Jeremy Zero]

I enjoy committed, exclusive realtionships, but once the conversations starts to dry, or their annoying habits drive you nuts, move on and stay happy.

[oakdale160]

A long term relationship is great, by long term I mean when they stay for breakfast.

[hhfarang]

I enjoy a committed relationship, but it has cost me dearly financially. I planned to retire at 60 with 1 million dollars in savings (and was on track to do that), but ended up getting married at 46, and retiring at 55 with a bit over 400k in savings as supporting a wife, daughter, and mother in law set me back in savings while speeding up my retirement date due to my wife wanting to live here. So I guess there are trade-offs.... depends on the person. I'm still happy to be married to her, but I wish I had worked a few years longer to build a bigger retirement nest egg to more comfortably support my wife and mother in law (who I love dearly and don't mind supporting). The other person I used to support is grown and married now and supporting herself.

[J.J.B.]

I'm married for the second time, having said after my divorce that I would never get married again. It has taught me never to say 'never', again, and also that I learned more about myself in my first marriage than probably anything else. Some pretty tough lessons for the most part.

My wife now also happens to be my best friend and she's a saint to put up with some of my s**t. I know many second time around couples who are very happy and, apparently, you never leave your second wife.

Oops, there I go saying 'never' again!