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[Big Boy]

I have this as a moveing gif file, But cant resize it and make it work aswell. Any ideas??

I've sent you a PM

[bluezephyr]

[jimflan]

my G/F is from rural Isaan as well, and she's been getting all the same crap - to the point where her two best friends (since school) are now not speaking to her. Both are claiming she owed them money, whereas reality is they just wanted her to provide farang funds for them (one was trying to flimp me and my G/F put a stop to it). I find it all very sad (whenever I have visited everyone is nice as pie), and she is obviously very upset by it all, as she loves her family and home area but this is almost driving her away. There are no farang in the area, apart from the husband of one of her estranged friends - who is around a couple of times a year but he lives most of the year back in Sweden, as he cannot afford to move to Thailand.
It's reassuring to see that most posts think this will go away over time - particularly if any other local girls hitch up with a farang. But it's still pretty depressing to see the crap that goes on ... I empathise Randy !!

[Randy Cornhole]

I think this go's on a lot more than has been mentioned here and it can be quite serious for the poor girl there on her own.

Imagine all your friends talking behind your back! How would you feel. You can't move as your family and kids are there, you don't have the money to move and besides why should you.

This is pure racisim at its worst. The more I think about it the more angry I become.

I have spoken to her and our plans are now not to live in Thailand but to try and make a life here in the UK. I still have a house here so that helps.

Yes Thailand is a nice place to live but sometimes it can be just too backward thinking and infuriating. I think nice long holidays there will be the thing for us in the future.

Watch this space...

[Spitfire]

I won't disagree with that Randy, racism is alive and well in many forms over here, as it is in most parts of the world.

In my personal situation, I haven't 'come across it' so much because my wife left the village to live with her aunt in Bangkok at the age of 8, went to school in Bangkok also. When we go to the village to visit her mum and dad she is semi-detached from it anyway and is almost viewed as not a full village person either, so a little less sniping, 'out of view is out of mind' so to speak.

Also, my wife has the Bangkok attitude of 'couldn't give a flying ****' what anyone says anyway, 'to hell with them'.

However, if a women was more involved with the village then I can see it being more venomous because the are around a lot and the Thais are very good at the 'comparing themselves with the Jones' senario.

Face and the fact that your wife has a better life makes them so bitter, nothing more than what you'd find in a school playground.

[lomuamart]

It's a shame (and that's an understatement) that it's got to the point that you're not going to live here, Randy. When Mrs Cornhole gets over to sunny Croydon it'll never be the same again.

[baron_wastelanduk]

Randy

i appreciate your concerns about living in thailand particularly in mrs c's village but hey Croydon hmmmm not one of the greatest places in the world
i suppose you are near the IND though so queing outside for hrs and hrs to renew her visa and paying the extortionate amount of money to the IND wont be too upsetting - i was lucky when the ex came here everything was free renewal
then there is the weather, language racism here also
personally i would think again and take the plunge the situation will improve there i am sure - u could always come away from the village and settle elsewhere

just my thoughts

[Rider]

Do any of you ever consider when you fall in love and start lavishing gifts upon your loved one what the long term effect on her can be?

From personal experience it can lead to an almost lepers existance in a small village. With the girl and her family experiencing the full backlash of the little green monster.

Snide remarks and a sudden lack of friends are not unusual as others who are struggling to survive see the girl in question wearing better clothes speaking on a nice phone and eating better food.
Her children have new school uniforms at the start of term with proper trainers, pens and school books...

My gf comes from a very small village in Issan, in fact there are only 4 ferrang males within a 20 or so km radius.

Everything was fine while I was there, but when I had to return home for a few months it began. She now states that she hates it there, and that there are a few (not everyone I must add) that are bad mouthing her on a regular basis, often behind her back.
As a result her parents are also feeling it and to a certain extent so are her kids!

Its pure jealousy i'm sure and in a way I understand it but it still makes me feel sad to think that I am the cause.

Just remember when you take someone back to their sleepy little village and spend a bit of money on her and her family, you could be doing a lot of damage, not only to her but to the whole family and their standing in the village...

And this is why, dear randy, I will never be sucked into the village microsm, the black hole of isaan to live out my days or visit. Been there only once, as a young dude visiting a dutch gimp. Never again.
Stick to towns and small cities and you've got some shelter from the family bs. Once in the village, you're outnumbered a bit

[dtaai-maai]

... visiting a dutch gimp.

Good mate of yours, was he?

[STEVE G]

I can see that if you were sat in a village anywhere in the world dressed as a gimp you're going to stand out a bit!
Seriously though, I've never had any problems with the family in Issan and actually they have been very helpful with many things.

[kendo]

Randy,
Thats a really big shame and very sad especially when it is affecting the kids.
I have had no experiance in our Issan village, (thats not very far from you) of this ugly jealousy, just hints of envy and other girls wanting to know if my wife could find nice man for them.

I think you will allways get people talking behind your back trying to work out your status, and as Spitfire said theres not a lot of things in the village to gossip about.

If you decide to bring your girl friend over here, i can asure you it's a very rewarding emotional experiance, and one you will cherish, you will be giving her the opportunity that only most Thai girls dream of.

If you want any advice on this PM me, my wife came over here in less than six months of us being together, and i handled her visa application myself, dont use a visa agent
as they will charge you around about £500 for some thing you can do yourself.

My wife has been here for more than 3 years and is very happy, you will be suprised that how fast she will adapt and learn, discover, a new culture good luck.

Kendo.


I will be up in Issan in november if you are out there, at this time lets meet up in Surin and go on the lash as spoken about before.

[Khundon1975]

RC

If you do bring her to the UK, you will soon find that there are more Thai women in your house, than you can shake a stick at.

My wife's Thai women friends, are in and out all the time.
Thank God There is some space, where I can hide away.

But I do like the fact that she has plenty of friends and they do all sorts of things (mainly shopping ) together.

It seems every other day we are eating in someones house, or the monks are in the house.

Good luck

[Big Boy]

Very true about Thais being in and out of everybody's house, and the sharing of food is normal for them - although we get more than our share visiting because of the quality of my wife's Thai/Issan cooking.

I do like the fact that she has plenty of friends and they do all sorts of things

That's fine unless one of things is gambling. I've seen many relationships struggle once the gambling thing kicks in. We actually knew one couple in the Nottingham area where the Thai wife lost her brand new Mercedes sports car during a night's stupidity.

I find the remark about the monks are in the house interesting. My wife is very religious, and we had a monk in our house for the first time in 20 years a couple of weeks ago (of all things, he came to tune an extra Thai channel on my wife's TV). Some friends have paid to have their houses blessed, but a monk in the house in the Bristol area is quite rare.

Which area do you live in Don? and what Wat do the monks originate from? Are the visits social, or do they serve a definite purpose?

My wife's favourite UK Wat is Wat Santiwongsaram (ex SANGHATHAN) in the Birmingham area. They always make us feel very welcome, and never fail to provide us with a good meal when we visit.

[kendo]

My wife has built some strong friendships since being here, you dont realize how many Thai's are in the U.K if we walk through Southampton city centre you will see quite a few.

Kendo.

[Khundon1975]

Big Boy

We are on the South coast and monks come from either Birmingham or Wimbledon, usually 3 or 4 with a driver and a sat nav, mainly for a get together and for our wives to chat to them.

It's really good fun and an excuse for another get together for all of us with Thai wives.

They also bless our homes and businesses and any other thing you can think of.

All the wives pull together and we have a great time, not as stuffy as
English church meetings. More a social thing.

My little wife spends days shopping for things to give them and so do all the other wives.
The Monks go away well fed and loaded up with stuff, including cash gifts.

I cannot spend hours kneeling down like the girls can, so I get the water splash blessing sat in my armchair.

None of our wives gamble thank God.