Thai girls away from home still keep the village customs

[Jimbob]

A friend has been complaining that when he brings his Thai GF into Australia on a tourist visa she soon gets bored with life at his place and seeks out Thai company rather than stay at home. Never mind the 30 year age gap etc etc. I tried to say to him she is also isolated from female company and he is boring and just 'go with the flow'. He complains about the thousands of dollars he has spent on her (but as an investment its a dud).

My Thai GF has been in Australia for twenty years like many of her long term girl friends and nothing pleases these women more than to get together, prepare food particularly Issan food, somtuns etc and share the food and drink and of course the number activity is gossip in Thai or what ever dialect works among them. The following photo was taken on a farm at a birthday party we went to. (The birthday girl is a chef at a nearby 4 star golf resort.) All the girls pitched bringing food or making food in the outside kitchen.
Mats were rolled out, the food and drink placed in the middle and the circle formed. It got bigger and bigger as more Thai girls arrived.
I was told: this is 'just like we do in Thailand' but I had not seen this done in Australia. These friendships are like family. Farang women just looked puzzled at the circle and sat in their groups.

As designated driver I carted home some very drunk ladies
I presume other Thai wives and girlfriends living overseas get together in a similar way?

So its not just the Farang ex pats who clump together in foriegn fields

[Terry]

Mrs.T soon found friends when she came with me to

Malaysia - KL (3 Yrs)
Taiwan - Taipei (18months)
Philippines - Manilla (6 months)and
UK London & Birmingham (1 Year)

And why not?

She had good friends - some of whom she still keeps in touch with - and enabled herself to protect her sanity in an expat life.

[hhfarang]

Yes, same in California and Florida... you can take the girl out of the village... but....

[Terry]

............My Thai GF has been in Australia for twenty years like many of her long term girl friends and nothing pleases these women more than to get together, prepare food particularly Issan food, somtuns etc and share the food and drink and of course the number activity is gossip in Thai or what ever dialect works among them...............

Would somebody please tell me what is the difference between the above activity and a bunch of Farang guys living in Thailand and drinking US / UK / European beer, watching their favourite sport and eating their favourite 'farang' food?

[sateeb]

Absolutely nothing Terry,but some ex pats don't see the big picture,some even have a sense of superiority and disdain over ex pats wanting to get together and share some common interests from time to time

[hhfarang]

Would somebody please tell me what is the difference between the above activity and a bunch of Farang guys living in Thailand and drinking US / UK / European beer, watching their favourite sport and eating their favourite 'farang' food?

You're right Terry, (again in one day posting another non PC post), although I haven't found that place here for an American farang. I found it in Saudi Arabia (of all places), but haven't been able to find it in Hua Hin. I guess it's easier for the Scandinavians and Britons as they dominate the expat population here. That's not to say I don't have British and Scandinavian friends; I do, but they seem to mostly hang out in cliques and you have to get in. When I first came here I hung out with mostly Canadians because they were most like me and there were a lot here. Most of the ones I knew have gone back or passed and I just haven't been able to feel comfortable in those other clubs.

Do you see those Thai women doing that regularly with women from Malaysia, Singapore, Myanmar, Laos, Cambodia or Viet Nam, (much less with women from non-Asian countries)?

We tend to gather with people we have something in common with and that is not here for Americans.

[JW]

HHF, you should drop by Bernys sometime, Sunday night when the last round of Eurpoean tour is usually good viewing (I think you mentioned you did recently but it wasnt on!). If a tournment is on it will always be on one of the TVs.

[PET]

HHF, you should drop by Bernys sometime, Sunday night when the last round of Eurpoean tour is usually good viewing (I think you mentioned you did recently but it wasnt on!). If a tournment is on it will always be on one of the TVs.

But will he be invited to join the ''table'' and made welcome?

[sateeb]

HHF, you should drop by Bernys sometime, Sunday night when the last round of Eurpoean tour is usually good viewing (I think you mentioned you did recently but it wasnt on!). If a tournment is on it will always be on one of the TVs.

But will he be invited to join the ''table'' and made welcome?

JW....Sounds like a bit of "table envy"

[hhfarang]

Bernie is a good friend that I've known since my first days here. I'm sure I'm welcome anywhere in his place, but as I said in another post, the last time I went there there was only footie on all the TV's and sorry but I just can't get into that sport no matter how much I try. It's more boring than baseball as it's usually watching guys run around kicking the ball for hours without anything else happening.

Oops, I've made another blunder by not liking the sport that is on 10 channels of TV here 24 hours a day and probably pissing off all the fans... that kill, pillage, and burn when their team looses...

... and the number 1 sporting event in the U.S., the Superbowl, wasn't shown on TV here this year.

[richard]

HHF

I know what you mean. I actually have a north Cali friend over here (8 months of the year) and he has actually sat and watched football cricket and rugby with me and eagerly tried to learn the rules and tactics but still makes comparisons with US popular sports. Biggest leg pull is about money. What are the bonuses on the result type of thing

In exchange he talks me through American football and baseball (I did grow up playing rounders so I know a little about baseball )

Don't forget Football (soccer) is the most popular sport in the world so you'd have to go to some remote island where their locals do not know of it. They used to say all wars are governed by religion. Football has it's own sort of warfare and if you read up on it a lot was originally (UK) linked to religion (Catholic vs Protestant)

[STEVE G]

For me the amount of soccer shown is bars everywhere is getting pretty annoying due to the poor manners of some of the supporters. They demand that music is turned off and the commentary put on without caring about other customers and then spend the next two hours shouting and swearing at a TV screen at the top of their voices.
That's not really very considerate for people who may have taken their wife out for lunch or something of that nature.
Obviously if the place is a sports bar you expect that kind of thing but it's getting to the stage where it's pretty much everywhere.

[Dr Michael]

This is a classic--a thread that stars with a discussion on how Thai women enjoy the company of other Thai womem when they are abroad has morphed into a discussion about football.
But I guess that is how real conversations in real life go, too.

[Takiap]

I don't see anything wrong with Thais wanting to hang out with other Thais, although this never happened at all when my wife stayed in UK with me. She was there for about two and a half years, and even when I was away offshore, she always hung out with local Scottish women, mostly the wives of my friends there. As a result, she's one of the very few Thais who has no problem understanding Aberdonians



HHF..............I agree with you.......football is crap

[Have a cigar]

There is a surprisingly large Thai community in Ayrshire, Scotland. I had no idea how many until my wife by chance met another Thai girl in Tescos. She invited us to a party where there were loads of other Thai women (and a few guys). Groups of them often get together in eachothers houses or in a community hall (for Songkran etc) and as you referred to in the opening post, eat and drink all day and gossip. I do enjoy the partys, getting waited on hand and foot....sometimes wish id brought my ear defenders though (can be a bit of a rabble!)