young Thai men and relationships

[Asia]

Sawatdee kha!

Unfortunatly I’ve never red stories about girls from Europe with Thai boyfriends. How are young Thai men in general regarding relationships in general and relationships with ladies from Europe? Does anyone know some Thai men(especially from HH:)) at this point? You'll be more than helpful if you'll send a reply..khapkun maak kha.

[Mack111]

I know a Thai guy that married a girl from the UK, i used to work with the guy back home in the UK years ago, there still together and both seem very happy, all be it there still staying in UK but i doubt things will change when / if they move back to Thailand.

He's a real nice bloke and now aday i dont even think anyone gives it a second though back home

cheers

[matthew80]

Hi! The Thai men that I have gotten to know briefly while on holiday all seemed very nice and extremely helpful and polite. However, the "stories" I have heard concerning Thai men (usually told to me by thai women) contradict my experience. I take these stories with a big grain of salt. Good and bad to be found everywhere, in every country, race and culture.

[Wanderlust]

Hello Asia and welcome to the forum. There are relationships between European women and Thai men but the numbers are very small in comparison to Thai women and European men, which is probably why there aren't many stories about them on here, combined with the fact that there aren't that many women who post on here a lot. Dawn is the obvious exception and I am sure she will tell you her experiences when she gets to this thread; alternatively you could send her a PM (her user name is Dawn HHDRC). There is an increasing population of European women in Hua Hin it appears so I am sure they would be keen to hear about other's experiences, so thank you for starting the topic. You might want to visit the Women's Issues part of the forum too.

[DawnHRD]

Hi Asia,

Yes, as Wanderlust said, I was involved with and living with a Thai man for 3 1/2 years until he died last year & now am taking care of his son. A lot of the European women I know are involved with Thai men (I know a lot of them through my work, or through my boyfriend).

I'm not really sure how to answer you, though. Maybe you could be a bit more specific about what you'd like to know? There are, obviously, culture and language differences, and also differences in expectations & willingness to communicate, but apart from that, I'd hate to generalise about "Thai men", because everybody is different. If you have any specific questions, I'd be happy to answer them to the best of my ability (but through mine & my friends' experiences only) via pm or by posting here.
Nice to have you on HHAD

[vincent chang]

Hello, I have been coming to thailand for some years now and I have only seen a few asian guys with european girls, as a matter of fact , thailand is probably the place you are least likely to meet an inter racial couple that is a thai guy and white girl. Why that is I do not know. I am an asian guy from california and there are far more mixed couples there, than in thailand. I dont know if it is an economic thing, or cultural thing, or what. by mixed couples I mean an asian guy with a white girl. but there are still many more couples the with a white guy and asian girl in california and I guess the rest of the world. I have dated different white girls around the world, but now I prefer asian women because as an asian guy, we just blend in with the rest of the world. If I go out with a white girl, and take her to a bar, sometimes, even in california, we will get an odd look or maybe even some hostility from the white guys there. One time in france, I was not even getting basic service at a restaurant, but maybe everybody gets shitty service in france. I am sure if you approached a thai guy in thailand he would be happy to date you, but it will probably be up to the girl to make the first move. One time, I was in a farang bar and was talking to a thai girl, and a farang guy did not even like me, an asian guy, talking to a thai girl. Farang guys can be very possessive about their farang women, and can even get hostile. A lot of american women get fed up with white american guys, and go to africa, or latin america to find something different, but very few go to asia to get an asian guy. I think a lot of asian guys in asia are just conditioned to not even try. Also asian guys are not very fat, and it is hard to find a farang woman these days that are as skinny as us asian guys. Thats the bottom line. guys dont want a girl who has a but a whole lot bigger than their own. that probably goes for white guys as well as asian guys. Trying to find a petite white girl who will go out with an asian girl without her friends and family freaking out is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

[Big Boy]

Vincent,

I've read your last post a couple of times, and it rings of a man with Asian looks with a chip on his shoulder.

My son who looks very Asian has had dozens of white girlfriends, and has never experienced the strange looks, or denial of service that you suffer. He has always been warmly accepted by the girls' families. Surely it is the person the girl goes out with, not the skin colour.

Your comments actually border on being racist against white ladies. If they are too fat for you, move on until you find somebody to your liking - or is it that the nice ones aren't interested in you?

[caller]

I think he's nowt but a wind-up merchant.

On another thread he waxes lyrical about the harmony between different coloured skins in Anerica and above, he talks about the hostile looks he get's from white guy's in the same land!

I've no idea what's pulling his plonker?

By the by, I thought the lingo might confuse said dumb friend and make him aware that us Brits have our own version of the kkk handshake, even if it is Toon?!

[DawnHRD]

Hello, I have been coming to thailand for some years now and I have only seen a few asian guys with european girls, as a matter of fact , thailand is probably the place you are least likely to meet an inter racial couple that is a thai guy and white girl. Why that is I do not know. I am an asian guy from california and there are far more mixed couples there, than in thailand. I dont know if it is an economic thing, or cultural thing, or what. by mixed couples I mean an asian guy with a white girl. but there are still many more couples the with a white guy and asian girl in california and I guess the rest of the world. I have dated different white girls around the world, but now I prefer asian women because as an asian guy, we just blend in with the rest of the world. If I go out with a white girl, and take her to a bar, sometimes, even in california, we will get an odd look or maybe even some hostility from the white guys there. One time in france, I was not even getting basic service at a restaurant, but maybe everybody gets shitty service in france. I am sure if you approached a thai guy in thailand he would be happy to date you, but it will probably be up to the girl to make the first move. One time, I was in a farang bar and was talking to a thai girl, and a farang guy did not even like me, an asian guy, talking to a thai girl. Farang guys can be very possessive about their farang women, and can even get hostile. A lot of american women get fed up with white american guys, and go to africa, or latin america to find something different, but very few go to asia to get an asian guy. I think a lot of asian guys in asia are just conditioned to not even try. Also asian guys are not very fat, and it is hard to find a farang woman these days that are as skinny as us asian guys. Thats the bottom line. guys dont want a girl who has a but a whole lot bigger than their own. that probably goes for white guys as well as asian guys. Trying to find a petite white girl who will go out with an asian girl without her friends and family freaking out is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

vc,

this post is basically just a bunch of trite generalisation & bigotry. In short, hogwash. Didn't you read my post (above yours) in which I said a lot of my friends have relationships with Thai men & I did too? There are so many inaccuracies in your thinking that I'm not even going to start to debate it. Suffice it to say, in America you may (or may not) know what you're talking about, but here, you are talking a very large amount of khee kwai!

[Sultry]

guys dont want a girl who has a but a whole lot bigger than their own. that probably goes for white guys as well as asian guys.

That's nonsense. Not all guys are looking for skinny girls.

[Jaime]

Thats the bottom line. guys dont want a girl who has a but a whole lot bigger than their own.

Would be a great line in a rom-com though! Made me chuckle!

[vincent chang]

I am e mailing from america right now , and the only skinny girls out here are either hispanic or asian. american girls just eat too much fast food or something. I am in vegas now, but when I go south to atlanta, and georgia, the situation will just get worse. Now skinny is just a relative word. for a real fat guy, most girls are probably skinny. but if you are a thin guy , then skinny is like real skinny. and they get fewer and fewer. Lucky is the fat guy for whom almost everyone is relatively skinny, even ones I might consider fat. No , america is not a perfect place , and maybe I was thinking 25 years ago and not the present day world where inter racail relationships are becomig more the norm. but really I think I have only seen two white girls with asian guys my whole time here in thailand. and many more than that outside of asia. My problem is I am too picky. have to find a beautiful girl regardless of race. these girls have no problem finding any guy, again regardless of race. I guess I shouldnt be so shallow and place beauty above all else, but thats just me. speaking of the kkk. I have no fear of them when in the deep south. but it seems this forum where people get together in the darkness of their own rooms and voice their opinions without being identified by who they are is a lot like the kkk with their sheets over their heads to keep people from identifiying them. I think an opinion is worthless if there is no one to stand up and identify themselves as to who they are. everybody here has an alias. I guess they dont want to take responsibility for what they say. much like the sheet covered ku klux klan of the old south. The funny thing is, I feel safer in the american deep south , even as a minority, and believe me, being an asian in the deep south is a minority, than I do here in Hua hin where I am racailly in the majority. it seems like anybody can do anything here with impunity.

[Wanderlust]

[Burger]

Totally agree WL.

Don't bother people.

Burger

[DawnHRD]

speaking of the kkk. I have no fear of them when in the deep south. but it seems this forum where people get together in the darkness of their own rooms and voice their opinions without being identified by who they are is a lot like the kkk with their sheets over their heads to keep people from identifiying them. I think an opinion is worthless if there is no one to stand up and identify themselves as to who they are. everybody here has an alias. I guess they dont want to take responsibility for what they say. much like the sheet covered ku klux klan of the old south.

Yep, you're right. We're totally like the kkk on here. Totally apt analogy. What a stupid thing to say. Firstly, the KKK is an underground organisation, racially motivated which exists to spread terror & hurt in the name of the supremacy of the white race. Could you explain to me, in words of any length (but please try, if you can, to use punctuation, paragraphs & uppercase letters occasionally, as your posts can be hard to read) just how you compare HHAD with that? Oh, yes the anonymity. Like mine. My username is that of my real name & my org. Guess I'm not good at this "hiding" lark... Many of us know each other, through HHAD events or just meeting up in general. None of us are hiding, none of us need to hide.

As for the rest of your post, I wish you success in your quest for physical perfection. If that's what's important to you, then I hope you find it. And I hope you meet up to her criteria when you do...