(There are good ones and there are not so good ones amongst these girls. Same same bargirls basically. Same risks involved I guess.)
Couldnt agree more!! Have seen numerous "good girls" hook a farang with the same if not worse outcome than a "bargirl experience". Some of these girls are more experienced than their bar counterparts and are experts at "screwing" the farang both physically and emotionally.
But that bieng said what have u got to lose? If the buffalo has died or mamma is very ill in your absense be careful as the monthly allowance speil is coming!!
Have a good freind who seemed to meet and settle with a very lovely girl. She arrived home one day and declared that she had to leave him as she met another guy who was very wealthy and could support her family better than her current beau.He in himself is no pauper but the logic she used was typical of a lot of girls in the farang market.
Help on girl front
Tj, agreed the biggest time I got burned in Thailand was not by a B/G but by a sweet looking Thai student who wouldn't say boo to a goose. I totally dropped my guard on that one. Never have since.
But you know what they say:
Experience gives the test first, and the lessons afterwards
Chin up and roll with the punches
But you know what they say:
Experience gives the test first, and the lessons afterwards
Chin up and roll with the punches
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sandman67
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Jesus there are some cynical old sods posting here.....whats happened guys?
I got fucked over royally once in my life......by my bitch of an ex wife (a farang). I've been lied to a lot too.....90% of it by farang women.
when I hear brother farangs harping on about "bar girls" and "Thai girls...blah blah blah" it makes my blood boil.
Take a Randy Cornhole trip and live in a Issan village for a week and you will see why these lasses work in bars. Its because they dont have many other options here. They usually got knocked up early, and have their kids and extended poor families to support.
Back home I ran an escort agency for two years. The same was true there. The lasses did it because it paid well and meant they could afford a better life. But like here they couldnt tell their families what they did, or friends......
They aren't all lazy, liars and/or golddiggers. No more than all lasses back home in the UK are.
I met my lass in a bar 5 years ago. I fell in love with her slowly as I found out that virtually everyone else loved her, and she was the first person Id met in a long time who didnt have a bent or bad bone in her body. She was also fun and made me happy.
2 trips later, and with a little help from me, she stopped working in the bar and bought a bunch of mopeds to hire out. Then we started to rent a house together so we could live together when i was here and she didnt live in a grotty room. I sent her some pocket money every month.
She worked hard, and now owns half the bar she originally worked in, a string of rental bikes, and she is some sort of beauty therapist/Avon lady during the day. She works long hours, and sends a load of money up north for her family and two kids....and everyone still loves her because she is still the kind good lass I met.
The best advice mate is take it slowly. Next time you are here rent a flat or apartment and get her to live with you for a week or two.
See how that works then if your heart is in it consider propping her up a bit to help out. Even sending her 10K Baht a month (just over a £150) would go a long long way......
Then move on from there......slowly.
Oh and learning some Thai and some of the culture helps.....even if it is a mindbending language......
Oh and one more thing. Im a type of PI (I don't do matrimonial/domestic work and never will). I'd advise against it strongly. If she has skeletons in her past maybe she wants them left there. How would you like someone rummaging around in your past? Its a shitty thing to do to someone unless there are some REALLY good reasons. It can also taint a relationship forever once the party who got investigated finds out....and they always do one way or another. Leave that crap for the paranoid New York and LA muppets. Make your own decisions....learning is all about initially fucking up anyway isnt it?
I got fucked over royally once in my life......by my bitch of an ex wife (a farang). I've been lied to a lot too.....90% of it by farang women.
when I hear brother farangs harping on about "bar girls" and "Thai girls...blah blah blah" it makes my blood boil.
Take a Randy Cornhole trip and live in a Issan village for a week and you will see why these lasses work in bars. Its because they dont have many other options here. They usually got knocked up early, and have their kids and extended poor families to support.
Back home I ran an escort agency for two years. The same was true there. The lasses did it because it paid well and meant they could afford a better life. But like here they couldnt tell their families what they did, or friends......
They aren't all lazy, liars and/or golddiggers. No more than all lasses back home in the UK are.
I met my lass in a bar 5 years ago. I fell in love with her slowly as I found out that virtually everyone else loved her, and she was the first person Id met in a long time who didnt have a bent or bad bone in her body. She was also fun and made me happy.
2 trips later, and with a little help from me, she stopped working in the bar and bought a bunch of mopeds to hire out. Then we started to rent a house together so we could live together when i was here and she didnt live in a grotty room. I sent her some pocket money every month.
She worked hard, and now owns half the bar she originally worked in, a string of rental bikes, and she is some sort of beauty therapist/Avon lady during the day. She works long hours, and sends a load of money up north for her family and two kids....and everyone still loves her because she is still the kind good lass I met.
The best advice mate is take it slowly. Next time you are here rent a flat or apartment and get her to live with you for a week or two.
See how that works then if your heart is in it consider propping her up a bit to help out. Even sending her 10K Baht a month (just over a £150) would go a long long way......
Then move on from there......slowly.
Oh and learning some Thai and some of the culture helps.....even if it is a mindbending language......
Oh and one more thing. Im a type of PI (I don't do matrimonial/domestic work and never will). I'd advise against it strongly. If she has skeletons in her past maybe she wants them left there. How would you like someone rummaging around in your past? Its a shitty thing to do to someone unless there are some REALLY good reasons. It can also taint a relationship forever once the party who got investigated finds out....and they always do one way or another. Leave that crap for the paranoid New York and LA muppets. Make your own decisions....learning is all about initially fucking up anyway isnt it?
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GLCQuantum
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Just a short one to add on to this thread.
Even though some bar girls are simply working there to support their family and also have a heart of gold, I could not fall in love with one who used to be known as ( as Austin Powers would put it ) "the village bicycle, everyone's had a ride".
This may just be me but knowing that a whole load of people in the Hua Hin bar area had paid money for s*x with my current girlfriend would not be a great thing.
I simply couldn't imagine having a girlfriend fully knowing that she's probably had s*x with over a 1000 clients!!!!
Nothing to do with the personality or intentions of the girl, purely to do with the fact I would always have that worry that I'll be walking down the street, she say's hello to a group of lads, and suddenly their all talking about the last time they slept with her....... Sorry, couldn't do it.
P.S. Sandman, I know quite a few under 18s who like to read this website and it would be most appreciated to them, I'm sure, if you washed your mouth out with soap and didn't use bad language in your posts. It's not the first time either. Remember, this is a forum for all to see not the nightcrawlers section.
Even though some bar girls are simply working there to support their family and also have a heart of gold, I could not fall in love with one who used to be known as ( as Austin Powers would put it ) "the village bicycle, everyone's had a ride".
This may just be me but knowing that a whole load of people in the Hua Hin bar area had paid money for s*x with my current girlfriend would not be a great thing.
I simply couldn't imagine having a girlfriend fully knowing that she's probably had s*x with over a 1000 clients!!!!
Nothing to do with the personality or intentions of the girl, purely to do with the fact I would always have that worry that I'll be walking down the street, she say's hello to a group of lads, and suddenly their all talking about the last time they slept with her....... Sorry, couldn't do it.
P.S. Sandman, I know quite a few under 18s who like to read this website and it would be most appreciated to them, I'm sure, if you washed your mouth out with soap and didn't use bad language in your posts. It's not the first time either. Remember, this is a forum for all to see not the nightcrawlers section.
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GLCQuantum
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P.S.S Just thinking, possibly my last post should be in nightcrawlers.
Going on to topic, as somebody put it before, there are good ones and bad ones. Just like there are good men and bad men... it's no different!
Any country will be the same. The only difference in this country is the fact that people can't earn as much here as we do and take the opportunity probably a little more often.
Christ, imagine what some of the ladies here, or anywhere in the world for that matter, think of some of the disgusting excuses of the male species we have to offer.
Going on to topic, as somebody put it before, there are good ones and bad ones. Just like there are good men and bad men... it's no different!
Any country will be the same. The only difference in this country is the fact that people can't earn as much here as we do and take the opportunity probably a little more often.
Christ, imagine what some of the ladies here, or anywhere in the world for that matter, think of some of the disgusting excuses of the male species we have to offer.
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GLCQuantum
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After a "long distance" one, when and if you settle down, you'll realise just how good the partner is.STEVE G wrote:Lomu, long distance relationships are not ideal, but they’re not impossible; I’ve spent my life doing it. However seeing as how I’ve never had the opportunity to have any other type of relationship, I couldn’t really comment on how they compare with living full time with some-one.
Am I?
I would very much like to live full time with my partner in Thailand, but the financial reality of the matter is that I will have to carry on with the long distance relationship for quite a few years to come. However I hope to cut down on the amount of time I spend working away in the next couple of years.
Of course, whether she is prepared for the traumatic experience of spending more time with me is another thing entirely!
Of course, whether she is prepared for the traumatic experience of spending more time with me is another thing entirely!
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couldn't do it
[quote="GLCQuantum"]Just a short one to add on to this thread.
Even though some bar girls are simply working there to support their family and also have a heart of gold, I could not fall in love with one who used to be known as ( as Austin Powers would put it ) "the village bicycle, everyone's had a ride".
This may just be me but knowing that a whole load of people in the Hua Hin bar area had paid money for s*x with my current girlfriend would not be a great thing. I simply couldn't imagine having a girlfriend fully knowing that she's probably had s*x with over a 1000 clients!!!!
Nothing to do with the personality or intentions of the girl, purely to do with the fact I would always have that worry that I'll be walking down the street, she say's hello to a group of lads, and suddenly their all talking about the last time they slept with her....... Sorry, couldn't do it.
Hey GLCQ,
What if you're a super cocksman
and have had sex with hundreds of ladies. You're walking down the street with your sweet new little girlfriend. You stop to say hello to a group of lasses and they start talking about the last time you did them. Can you imagine a girl having a boy friend that had sex with half the ladies in town?
See any difference?
HHS
Even though some bar girls are simply working there to support their family and also have a heart of gold, I could not fall in love with one who used to be known as ( as Austin Powers would put it ) "the village bicycle, everyone's had a ride".
This may just be me but knowing that a whole load of people in the Hua Hin bar area had paid money for s*x with my current girlfriend would not be a great thing. I simply couldn't imagine having a girlfriend fully knowing that she's probably had s*x with over a 1000 clients!!!!
Nothing to do with the personality or intentions of the girl, purely to do with the fact I would always have that worry that I'll be walking down the street, she say's hello to a group of lads, and suddenly their all talking about the last time they slept with her....... Sorry, couldn't do it.
Hey GLCQ,
What if you're a super cocksman
and have had sex with hundreds of ladies. You're walking down the street with your sweet new little girlfriend. You stop to say hello to a group of lasses and they start talking about the last time you did them. Can you imagine a girl having a boy friend that had sex with half the ladies in town?See any difference?
HHS
The devil made me do it the first time.
The second time I did it on my own.
When I finally got to the land of milk and honey, the milkman shot me
Happy wife, Happy life!
The second time I did it on my own.
When I finally got to the land of milk and honey, the milkman shot me
Happy wife, Happy life!