GIRLFRIEND PROBLEM
Caller,caller wrote:That's interesting - they're only usually valid for 6 months.lippy45 wrote: She has a One yr Visitors Visa so I will make contact with the Embassy.
Lippy
Happy to be corrected.
I was just about to post the same, in fact I believe the maximum stay has just been reduced to 3 months.
Guess what I'm thinking............
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Maybe not BB - this from the UK visa website:
How long will my visa be valid for?
With a visit visa you can usually enter and leave the UK any number of times while the visa is still valid. You cannot stay for longer than six months on each visit. Visit visas can be valid for six months, one year, two years, five years or 10 years. You can apply for a visa valid for any of these periods. The Entry Clearance Officer may decide to make your visa valid for a shorter time than you have asked for, for example if you are not a regular traveller or have never visited the UK before.
Lippy, you must be able to pull some strings, that is certainly not the norm for Thais and is the first time I have heard of it.
But I stand corrected!
How long will my visa be valid for?
With a visit visa you can usually enter and leave the UK any number of times while the visa is still valid. You cannot stay for longer than six months on each visit. Visit visas can be valid for six months, one year, two years, five years or 10 years. You can apply for a visa valid for any of these periods. The Entry Clearance Officer may decide to make your visa valid for a shorter time than you have asked for, for example if you are not a regular traveller or have never visited the UK before.
Lippy, you must be able to pull some strings, that is certainly not the norm for Thais and is the first time I have heard of it.
But I stand corrected!
OK, the website must be right. However there was a hell of a lot in the UK media a couple of months ago talking about the maximum stay for non-EEC residents being reduced to 3 months.
Maybe it was being discussed, but the legislation still has to take force.
Maybe it was being discussed, but the legislation still has to take force.
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Lippy,
That was probably the best answer she could have given!
But don't overstate your own status - I say that with respect - as it's not the main issue. I thought my own role would similarly have a bearing on my wife's visa. Took a few others with real expertise to put me right on that.
Anyway, glad to have put thing's straight.
Caller
That was probably the best answer she could have given!
But don't overstate your own status - I say that with respect - as it's not the main issue. I thought my own role would similarly have a bearing on my wife's visa. Took a few others with real expertise to put me right on that.
Anyway, glad to have put thing's straight.
Caller
Lippy,
If this woman was an average Ferang woman she would have had your balls for garters by now. You can't treat people the way you are treating her and expect her to be all grateful for this dubious excellent "life style" you say you have given her. And isn't all this going to the police and getting a lawyer a bit over the top? Maybe what you really wanted to ask in your op was this:
"I have got myself into an entangled relationship with a Thai girl who I want to get rid off in the easiest possible way"
Once a woman moves into your home and treats it as theirs for a couple of years, thats not an easy answer. Too many guys think they can get a Thai girl, use her for a couple of years, promise them allsorts, then, when they want to get rid of them, pay them off at the lowest price possible, expecting her to be grateful for such a "wonderful lifestyle" they have had from them. How arrogant and repugnant. I feel very sorry for her. She has been taken in by you yet you are secretly considering reporting her to UK immigration. Pathetic.
Whats even more strange is the amount of posters on here already condemning this girl as merely a "gold digger" when all the evidence proves otherwise. She MAY have a boyfriend turned into she PROBABLY has a Thai boyfriend. Lippy, deep down you know your at fault and your looking for sympathy to help fix your guilty conscience. You won't get that from me!
But heres more constructive advice - pay her the 300,000 thb she (reluctantly) wants and find a new tenant. Sell the house - move on and learn.
If this woman was an average Ferang woman she would have had your balls for garters by now. You can't treat people the way you are treating her and expect her to be all grateful for this dubious excellent "life style" you say you have given her. And isn't all this going to the police and getting a lawyer a bit over the top? Maybe what you really wanted to ask in your op was this:
"I have got myself into an entangled relationship with a Thai girl who I want to get rid off in the easiest possible way"
Once a woman moves into your home and treats it as theirs for a couple of years, thats not an easy answer. Too many guys think they can get a Thai girl, use her for a couple of years, promise them allsorts, then, when they want to get rid of them, pay them off at the lowest price possible, expecting her to be grateful for such a "wonderful lifestyle" they have had from them. How arrogant and repugnant. I feel very sorry for her. She has been taken in by you yet you are secretly considering reporting her to UK immigration. Pathetic.
Whats even more strange is the amount of posters on here already condemning this girl as merely a "gold digger" when all the evidence proves otherwise. She MAY have a boyfriend turned into she PROBABLY has a Thai boyfriend. Lippy, deep down you know your at fault and your looking for sympathy to help fix your guilty conscience. You won't get that from me!
But heres more constructive advice - pay her the 300,000 thb she (reluctantly) wants and find a new tenant. Sell the house - move on and learn.
Jockey, would you be quite as indignant if this girlfriend was a farang woman? Do the same rules apply?
What if one "grows apart" with a farang woman and she starts blackmailing and threatening with knives and arson?
Would this still be acceptable behavior to be rewarded with money on separation?
What if one "grows apart" with a farang woman and she starts blackmailing and threatening with knives and arson?
Would this still be acceptable behavior to be rewarded with money on separation?
"There's no plausible or convincing reason, certainly no evidential one, to believe that there is such an entity (= deity) and that all observable phenomena, including the cosmological ones... are explicable without the hypothesis; you don't need the assumption."
Ferang - I'll answer your question whether rhetorical or not very frankly. None of us know the true nature of this relationship and can therefore only be inclined to an opinion. We only hear Lippy's story but as it unfolds it becomes clearer that his girlfriend has already visited him in his country, is planning to visit again, has helped him buy his house, transferred her rights to the house back to him and from this I gather she is honest and trustworthy. What was said during their argument that brought her to threaten with a knife and threaten to burn the house down we don't know - and also we don't know the severity of the threat, (by that I mean people say "I'll kill you" but don't really mean it). Thai woman are not protected in the same way as a more equal Ferang man to Ferang woman relationship. A Ferang woman could in this case easily employ a divorce lawyer who could argue that a fair settlement to the separation would be the asset of the house and all Lippys other assets be equally divided between them both, recognising common-law rights.
My point is so many men think they can use Thai woman as some kind of play thing for a period, then when the time comes, get rid of them as if they are something they can buy and discard when used. When the unfortunate Thai woman is expected to leave with nothing, she faces loss of face with her family and has lost time to find a more compatible partner. When the man expects her to be grateful for "keeping her" as if she were some kind of pet, I can understand why she might get frustrated without the ability to hire a qualified lawyer to help her.
Meanwhile, everyone on this thread seem to have condemned the girl and sympathise with Lippy, who for a mere 300,000 thb would have in my opinion got out of this lightly.
My point is so many men think they can use Thai woman as some kind of play thing for a period, then when the time comes, get rid of them as if they are something they can buy and discard when used. When the unfortunate Thai woman is expected to leave with nothing, she faces loss of face with her family and has lost time to find a more compatible partner. When the man expects her to be grateful for "keeping her" as if she were some kind of pet, I can understand why she might get frustrated without the ability to hire a qualified lawyer to help her.
Meanwhile, everyone on this thread seem to have condemned the girl and sympathise with Lippy, who for a mere 300,000 thb would have in my opinion got out of this lightly.
Just three things:
1. She had no rights to the house, he bought and paid the house.
2. It is not 300 000, the car cost 450 000 of which still 300K is unpaid. So it is 450K, not 300K.
3. If Libby during the relationship did not pay her the going rate of 5 000 - 25 000 B/month, he owes the lady the settlement.
Since we do not know enough, we only make suppositions which is completely useless.
Usually it is the fool of the farang man who is being played with and who has lost his house and all his funds.
1. She had no rights to the house, he bought and paid the house.
2. It is not 300 000, the car cost 450 000 of which still 300K is unpaid. So it is 450K, not 300K.
3. If Libby during the relationship did not pay her the going rate of 5 000 - 25 000 B/month, he owes the lady the settlement.
Since we do not know enough, we only make suppositions which is completely useless.
Usually it is the fool of the farang man who is being played with and who has lost his house and all his funds.
"There's no plausible or convincing reason, certainly no evidential one, to believe that there is such an entity (= deity) and that all observable phenomena, including the cosmological ones... are explicable without the hypothesis; you don't need the assumption."
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Is that really the going rate? Blimey.Farang wrote: If Libby during the relationship did not pay her the going rate of 5 000 - 25 000 B/month, he owes the lady the settlement.
I should stop advising my students to get a top job at a hotel and advise them otherwise. I should probably also have a word with some very attractive teachers here (on 10,000 baht month). VS
Anyway, its what I would earn without my overtime!
And I pay tax....
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