Can you help a rookie out?

[Keoni]

Ok guys,

I've got some questions for the experts out there.

I was in Hua Hin last 4/03 and found myself unprepared for what was in store.

I'm returning this October and thought I'd try to get a better handle on how things work out there.

I'm hoping to find a girl to spend some time with for the week or two and have a few questions.

When I was there last year I met a very pleasant girl, who wanted to spend the week with me. She wanted to take my dirty clothes out for laundry and wanted to stay in my hotel room (Hilton) while I went to play golf early in the morning. Unsure if this was the norm and worried that I would come back to an emptied hotel room I passed on the laundry offer and asked her to leave the room with me, telling her that I would meet her for dinner later that day. She seemed a bit unhappy that I would not let her sleep in the room while I was out golfing.

Was I being overly cautious? Is it acceptable to leave the girl in the room (maybe lock valuables in the room safe)? Will she rack up the room charges (room service) while I'm gone?

Also, should I be assisting her $ on a day to day basis, or just one big $$$ at the end of the trip?

Also, is it acceptable to discuss when first meeting preferences in the bedroom (bj's, backdoor, facials, does she have a girlfriend to join us for a night or two etc.), before coming back to the hotel? It would be nice to have an idea if we're compatible in the bedroom before leading her on at the hotel. The girl I met last year was a bit more timid in the bedroom than I'd prefer.

With this kind of arrangement, is it acceptable for the girls to be seen out to dinner with me, or showing me around (tour guide)?

I had some great massages (G rated) at the places directly across from the Hilton. Great to fix a tight back after golf. Will my girl be upset if I get a regular massage at these places? Should I ask her for the massage first?

Maybe it's just a fantasy, but I'm hoping to find a nice girl (compatible in the bedroom), who will want to spend the week(maybe more) lounging around when I'm playing golf, but there to pamper me the rest of the time.

I'm looking to have a great time with a great girl, but also don't want to offend her in the process.

Any help or insight would be helpful.

Cheers!

[buksida]

Hi and welcome to the board!
I'm no expert on these matters but will try to give you some idea of what goes on around here.

You are absolutely right on the security matter of not leaving the girl in the room if you're unfamiliar with her. Not saying that they are all thieves but you need to excercise caution with valubles and cash when you're travelling. I'm sure this girl would have been fine but do you want to take that risk?

As far as other financial and sexual aspects of the relationship go it really depends on the girl and where you met her. Most bar girls are pretty open minded about sex and money, as long as you establish your needs before venturing into the 'relationship' and shes cool with it then no problems should arise. This also goes for the $$$ side of things, make sure your both clear on the agreement, this way you wont get an irate thai girl demanding 10,000 baht after 2 weeks.

No problems whatsoever on taking girls out for dinner, and most hotels in hua hin are fine with 'guests'.

As far as massages go again you should have no worries although some thai girls can get extremely jealous if they have grown attached to you, on a short holiday you'll have no problems.

Bottom line is if the two of you are comfortable with each other and both know what to expect from each other then your fantasy should come true without a hitch.
Good Luck.

[Keoni]

Hey Buksida,

Thanks for the input.

So...it sounds like taking care of my bargirl at the end of my stay is the norm? What would be, on average, the rate for 10 days/nights (end of October)? If I'm settling the "bill" at the end of my stay, should I also be slipping her a few baht for lunch etc each day, while I'm out golfing?

If I keep the valuables locked in the room safe (I'll be staying at the Hilton) and leave her there while out golfing, I'd think she'd tend not to steal anything if she's expecting me to take care of her $$$ at the end of my stay...does that make sense?

Forgive me for sounding naive , but I figure if I get get some info ahead of time, then I can avoid any problems/stress and have a relaxing pleasant vacation.

I appreciate your help.

Any additional info would also be appreciated. Thanks again.

[buksida]

Again financial agreements are entirely between you and the girl. They typically want 1,000 baht per night but this is rarely the case for a longer stay. You may also have to consider the barfine, the mamasun will want 2-300 baht per day for keeping her away from the bar.

The hotel safe is a good idea.

[philip]

May be best for the long-term, to choose a girl who speaks better english than average, as otherwise it gets a bit tedious, unless you're a marathon shagger, to keep your interest up !

[Keoni]

Hey Buksida and Philip,

I just wanted to say thanks for the input. If you're in Hua Hin at the end of October we'll have to get together for a beer.

Any other info/advice will still be appreciated.

Thanks again,

Jon