In a pickle with possible stalker

[Babylon]

I certainly would be careful if my boy friend started hanging around with a group of single younger guys, especially when there appears to be a strong attraction. I know when phone numbers start to be exchanged meetings can happen all the time. A classic diversion is to say the other guy was coming onto me! Certainly a red flag for me would be your friend leaving the gym, that seems like a classic admission of guilt and running away? Leaving mutual friends and breaking relationships with them? I would certainly investigate these mutual friends, they probably have a much better idea what is going on, and may be able to help you? Are you also a member of the gym? They have seen this play out, and have allowed your friend to leave the gym, not tried to persuade her to stay, but remained close friends with the guy. This certainly does not fit into my experience when something like this blows up in a group.

I think you might be being played for the benefit of the older husband, so you feed certain info over, this just all seems a bit fishy to me? Be careful especially if you are going to the police yourself, that you have all your facts straight, if phone records show you have this all the wrong way round and friends back the guy up, you may be in trouble yourself? (the Thai equivalent of wasting police time?) I know how manipulative people in relationships can be to hide the truth, the guy seems to have little to hide, but your friend seems to have many reasons for hiding the truth.

Also should the older falang guy not man up a bit? I know he probably feels a bit insecure and embarrassed, but really has he not tried talking to the guy? It seems like he is just letting all this flow around him, and letting another guy take care of this problem for him, the r-ship seems a bit weak, to say the least.

[Takiap]

When ever a girl has given me her number in the past that hasnt been anything to do with work i usually end up shagging her

Wow, very impressive, how do you do it? So, you've never had a female friend in your life? I can't help but wonder why?

[sargeant]

quote babylon

I certainly would be careful if my boy friend

Presuming you are female i find it difficult to understand as to why you are doing an assasination job on the reported VICTIM

Presuming you are gay i still find it difficult to understand as to why you are doing an assasination job on the reported VICTIM

In particular as your posts seem to be based on total B*******S presumptions

[Frank Hovis]

Because your friend is Thai and works in a business she should be able to get some information from the police without much trouble, even if she asks 'for a friend'.
Does she not have brothers or male Thai friends who could have a word with the 'possible stalker' ?
I'm assuming the 'possible stalker' is quite a young man based on the 'his father has a business in Bangkok', if that is the case I suspect it's more bravado than anything serious, someone older than, say, 25 and I would be much more concerned.
You could always get a lawyer to write a letter to the boy (and the father) indicating that your friend will take further action if this doesn't stop; it may not dissuade the boy but I'm sure his father won't want any trouble with the police and may put pressure on the boy - don't worry about 'thats what he wants' I doubt he wants his father getting involved.

[dozer]

Why would she ask a farangs advice on how to handle this? You would think if she is a business lady she would know how to handle such harassment, all seems a bit odd to me.

[advocate]

I have dealt with stalkers many times before in my previous profession.
The best thing you can do is to have as little interaction as possible. If he gets through on the phone, hang up immediately. Do not feed their ego or delusions by participating in conversation. Keep all SMS messages and all records of incoming calls.

The police will often refuse to get involved in these types of matters. If he is a falang, I would first try the immigration police, and the tourist police. If he is not here legally, this may be the fastest route to get rid of him by deportation. You could also try the Women and Childrens Protection Division of the Thai Police.

You could take matters into your own hands, but this may just escalate things. If he is seriously injured or even killed, and it turns out you hired thugs to do this, you could end up doing time in the monkey house.

The guy sounds unstable and unpredictable. If it were my wife, I would have friends who are police officers pay the guy a visit. Perhaps even lock him in a holding cell for a bit to give him a good scare. These types are usually cowards and often the threat of incarceration is enough to scare them into selecting a different victim.

[Takiap]

quote babylon

I certainly would be careful if my boy friend

Presuming you are female i find it difficult to understand as to why you are doing an assasination job on the reported VICTIM

Presuming you are gay i still find it difficult to understand as to why you are doing an assasination job on the reported VICTIM

In particular as your posts seem to be based on total B*******S presumptions

I can't recall the OP ever saying her friend is/was friends with every other person attending the gym. I also can't recall her say the stalker is/was friends with all the other gym members.

I think, if this is genuine, that the lady concerned should go to immigration and discuss it with one of the female officers. Perhaps a small token of appreciation would be enough for Mr Stalker to get a visit and a word of advice, assuming he is Farang.

[dom77]

Does anyone know both sides of this? You have taken someones post for literal truth! I would also be careful about threatening someones personal safety! Inciting violence is a crime!

What if your supposed stalker is innocent and you victimise someone based on one side of the story. If you do this suggests a very limited intelligence!

[dom77]

MODERATOR

Do your job and remove all posts that are inciting violence and threats from someone we have not heard from! Im sure that if something untoward hapens and this forum is linked to it you could be in serious trouble

[advocate]

I have not incited violence or threats. In fact, I suggested getting the police to take care of this, rather than hire the local thugs/mafia.
But, if the facts are not as the OP suggests, then I doubt they will go to police.

[Babylon]

quote babylon

I certainly would be careful if my boy friend

Presuming you are female i find it difficult to understand as to why you are doing an assasination job on the reported VICTIM

Presuming you are gay i still find it difficult to understand as to why you are doing an assasination job on the reported VICTIM

In particular as your posts seem to be based on total B*******S presumptions

Apologies, I don’t normally contribute too these types of negative threads, but this particular one reminds me of a friends experience, a couple of years ago. Where someone’s lying caused him and his family a great deal of distress, basically a similar but not identical scenario to here. If at the time, everyone (including myself) had thought with slightly clearer heads, and talked and got even the basic evidence / looked at the red flags, one of which was the way mutual Thai friends reacted as I pointed out, the outcome could have been a great deal better all round. I am just trying to point out to the OP that there are 2 sides to the story, and to make sure he is clear of the facts before jumping in. Of course if he is right, there is plenty of “hang him and flog him” threads here already, that I really don’t feel the need to add to.

I am gay BTW.

[Lev]

MODERATOR

Do your job and remove all posts that are inciting violence and threats from someone we have not heard from! Im sure that if something untoward hapens and this forum is linked to it you could be in serious trouble

Shouting and demanding will get you nowhere fast. No threats have been issued and no names or specifics have been mentioned so nothing in this thread can be taken beyond the simple discussion that it is.

[BingoBango]

Sorry it must be me again simplify matters, of course i have female friends, in the most they would be family or my friends wives so i have been given their numbers by husbands to help each other picking kids up etc..

I was talking about a stranger in a resort that is rife with girls and prostitutes looking to better their situation, then if given her number and i was single, chances are she would be getting a length in the near future.

Personally i wasnt one for bothering with numbers as it could be drawn out, in the main i would get the deed done within the hour, nightclub toilets, car if she had one, up against a waste bin, i share the same qualities as a soi dog but i cant lick my own ballacks

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