THAILADY
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redzonerocker
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paul,another good bit of advice from nevets.
seeing is believing!
seeing is believing!
Take the 'rose tinted' off and take advice from the above posters
By nature, I'm not a pessimist but I've been here long enough to know the pitfalls many farangs have dropped into
Caution my friend. Dawn is absolutely right, many girls have several service providers and they are not internet ones !
By nature, I'm not a pessimist but I've been here long enough to know the pitfalls many farangs have dropped into
Caution my friend. Dawn is absolutely right, many girls have several service providers and they are not internet ones !
RICHARD OF LOXLEY
It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
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Re: THAILADY
Island hopping???PAULGARLO wrote:
.....paid for everything island hopping flights to laos & Vientiane and Luang Prabang......
This should not be part of the equation.PAULGARLO wrote: .........BUT SHE IS A BEAUTIFULL GIRL............
PAULGARLO wrote: Well i suppose it's true she don't go working the bars while im in england or she wouldn't need to ask for money or would she ?
.........why as she asked all of a sudden out the blue she knows im coming back soon has she stopped working bar.......TX PAUL
There seems to be a contradiction in these two sentences.
To answer the first. As has been said earlier some girls have many sponsors. Additionally some girls have sponsors and still work in bar when none of the sponsors are available. Some are quite expert at maintaining their diaries to avoid co0nflicts between sponsors. An easy worthwhile test for that that has proved successfu8l many times is to turn up one month early and surprise her. (As nevets has already suggested)
The second question's answer is that they know that few farang will send money if the girl is still working in the bar.
I am beginning to think Rider has a point.
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want2bethere
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lots of good advice above, did you not consider taking her with you? also, its seems you took good care of her and spent a reasonable amount while you were together, 20k a month for the 2 months you are apart isnt so bad, plus it will help keep away the temptation to obtain funds from other sources, not because she wants to, but needs some money 2 live. I am trying to shed some positive light on this subject, as said before, in other topics, all relationships are dif, though there does seem to be a common path to many of them, after six months together, you must know each other quite well, I say go with your heart on this one, good luck !
Thanks Sarge
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Can't agree more with the 'don't sent money' statement
Check, check, check all the time
Original poster------------ If you are thousands of miles apart you don't really know what they are up to (applies all over the globe) , unless your relationship is really deep. Bitter experiences showing through . Applies to both parties of course
Been out of date most all my life
Can't agree more with the 'don't sent money' statement
Check, check, check all the time
Original poster------------ If you are thousands of miles apart you don't really know what they are up to (applies all over the globe) , unless your relationship is really deep. Bitter experiences showing through . Applies to both parties of course
RICHARD OF LOXLEY
It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
This is almost identical to a dilemma a friend of mine was in. She'd 'quit' her job in a bar in Pattaya and was being a good girl. He sent me pics, the name of the bar etc. A friend and I went to the bar seperately. My friend identified her, 'Pulled' her, paid her bar fine and I got the pic. Sent it back to my friend in the UK. Done deal. He still owes me a few drinks for that one.
I'm not saying that your girl is the same. But, beware.
I'm not saying that your girl is the same. But, beware.
I think I want to make another approach to this question.
1. The girl you met is working in a bar, supporting her family.
2. You travel back to farangland and want her to stay home with her family.
3. She ask you for money because her family do need and eat food.
4. You don't want to give her money.
5. She's going back to work in the bar.
Most of you are saying "don't send money".
Do you really think she and her family is able to cope with their daily bills and food that way?
If YOU tell her to wait for you at home, then I really think you should take care of her and send her the money.
20.000 Baht is quite a lot of money, maybe you should send her 10.000 instead. That is up to you, but 5000 is too little.
I know that some of the girls do have more than 1 farang sending her money, but it's not as common as you may think.
Do as nevets say, go back and find out for yourself if you are not 100% sure.
That's a very good piece of advise.
1. The girl you met is working in a bar, supporting her family.
2. You travel back to farangland and want her to stay home with her family.
3. She ask you for money because her family do need and eat food.
4. You don't want to give her money.
5. She's going back to work in the bar.
Most of you are saying "don't send money".
Do you really think she and her family is able to cope with their daily bills and food that way?
If YOU tell her to wait for you at home, then I really think you should take care of her and send her the money.
20.000 Baht is quite a lot of money, maybe you should send her 10.000 instead. That is up to you, but 5000 is too little.
I know that some of the girls do have more than 1 farang sending her money, but it's not as common as you may think.
Do as nevets say, go back and find out for yourself if you are not 100% sure.
That's a very good piece of advise.
I intend to live forever - so far so good.
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point taken norseman & a very good point too.
a decision for the individual to make, based on the level of trust & commitment on both parties.
i try not to be to pessimistic nor overly optimistic. the middle ground is where i stand on this topic, having seen both sides of this story for myself.
a decision for the individual to make, based on the level of trust & commitment on both parties.
i try not to be to pessimistic nor overly optimistic. the middle ground is where i stand on this topic, having seen both sides of this story for myself.
10yrs ago i met a girl in Pattaya, after a 3 week romantic time and much fun i left for England , we kept in touch she was still working . After about 3 months i told her i was coming back to see her, i arrived we met up and stayed together for a month . Before leaving i asked her to come to England , this was on a 6 month fiance visa and if she liked me enough and we got on together , we could be married. She said yes ,i had all ready met the family and left her money to look after herself and her 8yrs old son being brought up by her mom. It took about another 3month to get the visa and everything after i got lucky with someone dropping an appointment we got a date i came over and we were interviewed 1 each ,and 1 together . We got the visa and we left after a big party for England ,after 4months she said yes, and we were married and stayed 4 1/2 years. Her son did not wont to come and was happy with her mom he had been brought up by her anyway. We have lived here in Phetburi for for 5yrs , no one said it would be easy but if you dont take a chance you wont know , and we have had our fights i can tell you, but as far as i know she has bean faithful and never been a problem with money. So for you lads wanting a Thai bride you have to make your mind up and do it , you can not expect her to sit in her room with no money , and if she thinks she is there for your convenience ,she may as well have 2 others , but if she is waiting to set up home with you that's different, and i am shore she will be good because most girl are looking for a man to marry and you have made the commitment, Thank you for reading my storey.
Maybe there's one aspect of all this that's missing (excuse me if I have).
And that's making the move here. It may be nothing to do with anything more sinister than losing your faith in your own country and the work ethic. There may be a lady waiting for you here.
There was for me. That finished a long time ago and now I'm happily married, but it's taken years to get to any semblence of sanity. It's never easy here and if you're living "back home" with a long distance relationship on the go, it's pretty much impossible.
Just move here. It's a big move.
And that's making the move here. It may be nothing to do with anything more sinister than losing your faith in your own country and the work ethic. There may be a lady waiting for you here.
There was for me. That finished a long time ago and now I'm happily married, but it's taken years to get to any semblence of sanity. It's never easy here and if you're living "back home" with a long distance relationship on the go, it's pretty much impossible.
Just move here. It's a big move.
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want2bethere
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if you can afford it, help the girl out, its obvious you like her, you will be back in 2 months, you could lose more than your cash if you dont, she will go back 2 the bar if she needs money, she has experience of that, but after the relationship with you, she might not want to. I agree with previous message that long distance will never work, but as you already are involved and if you are serious, sort it out, move to thailand, its a wonderful place.